The point of what they're doing is to force you to humiliate yourself in order to function.

it seems inconsistent but once you realize this it's not. They believe that being misgendered is incredibly humiliating, and their goal is to force you to constantly misgender (aka humiliate, harm, degrade) yourself in order to be "allowed" to function.

Self-flagellation is the disciplinary and devotional practice of flogging oneself with whips or other instruments that inflict pain. In Christianity, self-flagellation is practiced in the context of the doctrine of the mortification of the flesh and is seen as a spiritual discipline. It is often used as a form of penance and is intended to allow the flagellant to share in the sufferings of Jesus, bringing his or her focus to God.