Within leftist circles, they find people who make their entire personality their sex/gender/orientation to be as insufferable as we do, but they won't ever admit it. Often, they'll actively lie to themselves.

In public, they'll side with these crazy people, particularly when it comes to arguing against the other side. But in private, they aren't associating with each other and enjoying each other's companies like friends would. They may talk privately, but the extent of their conversations they get mutual enjoyment out of will be discussing their hatred for the other side.

These people don't want to talk to someone who can only talk about their penis or lack thereof. They don't want to talk to someone who makes them police their own words.

They force themselves, too, however. But this means any and all personal relationships these types have are fake. And that kind of thing is detectable and weighs on a person. You will absolutely know if all of your "friends" really only talk to you because they feel like they won't be "accepting" if they don't.

If we didn't have woke culture and pandering, these people would be shut down explicitly and would be forced to reassess their ways. As it is now, they have the burden of knowing that nobody likes them, but not the understanding of exactly why they are so insufferable, because they're constantly told that what makes them insufferable is actually what makes them unique.