I realise this is a slightly strange thing to ask, on a forum like this, but y'all have a general idea of my... Life experience, and background, by now, and some of you seem to have somewhat decent ideas on these sorts of things, so...
I just dropped out of my courses for this semester. It's after Census date, so I'll have to pay for them (student loans), but it was the last day to withdraw without Academic Failure, so I'll get a couple of big fat "W"'s on my transcript, but it won't tank my GPA any further. So that's something, I guess.
As for why... Look, I was fucking failing, anyway. The Uni had set us students up with the impression that we could do the courses effectively online, for the semester (which would make sense, given lockdowns in several Aus states, including the one bordering the cities my Uni is in), but that most definitely has not proved to be the case.
For the whole semester so far (9 weeks, I believe?), I've been stuck in the wrong fucking state, with shitty internet, a shitty living situation, unable to get back to my classes in person. I've had innumerate other things to deal with, including the fact that my grandfather does not remember who I am, and could well die any day, now, and yet I cannot see him because I am a fucking unvaccinated "plague rat", still...
So yeah. I "dropped out". For now. Until November.
Shit in my life, including this but also far beyond and all around it, is completely and utterly fucked. Sincerely and seriously, I am pretty much at the point of just... Ending it. So yeah.
I'm broke, unemployed, single, unfit, slightly overweight, fairly average looking (but tall, and not hideous), I have a few debts, I'm estranged from most of my friends, I'm extremely lonely, I have very little capital, and few qualifications to speak of (relatively speaking. Let's go with "for my age"). I'm horrifically depressed (anyone know what it's like to find the thought of suicide "calming"..? I've been at that point for nearly a fucking decade), terribly anxious, and probably have ADHD, amongst other things. I'm a fucking wreck. I have cripplingly low self-confidence and self-esteem (more confidence than esteem, though), so I have no trouble telling you that I am a useless piece of shit who probably deserves all the pain, humiliation and failure I have experienced in life. Though I probably don't deserve any more shit, because life has... Already punished me enough, I would have thought.
So, then... What should I do? Where should I start? Hypothetically, if I don't off myself, between now and November, what the fuck should I do?
My country is fucked, remember. Things here are really quite bad. But not where I'm currently stuck (relatively speaking), and not where the Uni is, so much, either (woo for doxxing myself, more and more)...
I genuinely don't think I'm "intellectually" stupid. I'm just an immature, unmotivated, selfish, arrogant jerk, who can't set my mind to things, and gives up far too easily. Because I'm weak. Because I... Don't care enough? I'm not sure.
But anyway, fire away (if you want)! You can go with "just lift, bruh", or "see a therapist, bruh", or "Get your T levels checked, you sound like a weak woman!", if you want, but quite honestly, I would prefer something a bit more in-depth than that.
I'm even open to hearing your religious suggestions, if you really want to go there. Not Buddhism or Islam, though. Fuck that.
Go ahead, the floor's yours. I can't imagine I'll be killing myself for AT LEAST a few more days, so you have at least that long to... Give me some sort of "goal", that I don't already have, or whatever, to try and live for, lol...
My guide to male human happiness:
Be outside in nature 30 minutes a day. Most animals don’t do well in captivity and that includes humans. Humans need Vitamin D and they get that mostly from exposure to the Sun. I have tried Vitamin D supplements and take them, but they don't give the same feeling when I get sunlight from outside. In addition, the view of nature is aesthetically pleasing to humans and calming.
Exercise 30 minutes a day. It helps relieve stress and improves your health. Exercise raises your testosterone which makes you feel more motivated. You are also working towards and goal and improving yourself which will improve your mood. Through the most of human history, we have had to do much more physical labor to survive, the world we live in now where we can survive with almost no labor is new.
Help out or work together on something with a family member or friend. Through most of human history we have had to work together with our neighbors and family. We need them in case our crop fails or the environment changes drastically. We yearn for someone to depend on in case of emergency and without one we feel uneasy.
Take complete control over something small in your life and continually improve. Humans have lived simple lives through most of their history. For the most part, extra work means better results. If you are worried about the next winter, you can plant more crops or salt more meat. Our current situation is much more complex and we don’t have as much control over our lives. By taking control over something small, you can feel like you have control over your life.
Stay away from all politics and social media especially .win. Most of us do not use Twitter, but we come here to see the most ugly and vile posts from Twitter anyways. These places can be demoralizing. If you don’t have control over your own life, you shouldn’t give a shit about how the world is collapsing.
This may sound like a lot but lots of tasks overlap. Hiking could cover 2 or 3 of them depending on your goals. Going to the gym with a friend can be 3 of them. If you chop wood for your parents, you are doing all 5 at the same time.