This is something you see often nowadays, especially on social media. Activists get some controversial policy approved, or censor some already-existing content. Yet if you protest it, you get the "dude why do you care" fence-sitters. They'll tell you that it doesn't matter that much and that both sides are silly anyway. Often these people are in complete support of said policy/censorship, but if you point it out they'll just tell you that those extremists don't represent them (because they're the enlightened "centrists", of course), and you get nowhere.
I feel like this is a big problem. How do you deal with this?
Careful. A lot of these people may be fence sitting in entirely good faith, they just haven't been sufficiently shoved off the fence yet by the left (everyone has a different breaking point). When they do, let's be welcoming.