Look at the morons of Reddit for example on places like AHS and Parler Watch. We get kicked off the platform or leave voluntarily and they FOLLOW US HERE. Like why? You won, you have Reddit to yourselves, why not leave us alone?
You see the same discussion happen when talks of secession or "peaceful divorce" come up. They constantly shit on red states and say we're "all poor and gonna starve and be a 3rd world country without DC, NY and CA footing the bill". It's as if they are saying "there's the door". So we try and leave and they say "wait no you can't do that".
So what is it? Is it they know deep down it's a lie and red states/people are not dumb and weak? Is it some pathological need to have a "bad guy" ("I dont wanna kill you, what would i do without you? You complete me)? Or is it as simple as they really do want us all dead and when we are gone they will cannibalize each other and finally themselves?
Look up how abusive people work. This is abuse. The worst is they will declare it as them fighting abuse.
Most people who leave a relationship need someone else to help them stay away from the abuser. So, I guess the answer is, figure out who can help, and have them there whenever things get ugly.