It's true that won't work and you are giving them what they want, to see your hurt, the sadistic *itches. But I fully understand why men, ESPECIALLY White men, with all the crap hurled at them might breakdown in tears. It's just too much, hence the high suicide rates. You also shouldn't take it silently, or at least, shouldn't just just go along to get along. Cut off all these foul wretches from your life, ignore their tantrums, discuss why they are wrong openly with others, so those others know they aren't alone and can be persuaded but don't get involved with "discussions" with actual people like this because it's futile. Men need to form their own spaces again and guard them carefully.