i found the best way to approach this is in a purely shittalkey brainstorming way.

when you just stare into the void with a beer in hand and a smile on your face, just pretend to think about what form of democracy you even would want. expand on the original greek meaning, go over what we actually should have, a representative republic, to the existing mob-rule which can be easily steered by tptb... all while forming it more as questions to yourself than as statements.

that helped me tune down my, granted, aggressive (or rather frustrated) style of talking and makes ppl who are not used to talking about these things or haven't even thought about them way more open.