But if I, you, her mother, her uncle or anyone else told her that it wasn't going to work she would have yapped at us with that blabbering, incomprehensible way.

Honey, in a Muslim family you will never be considered equal. It's Muslim men, Muslim women, non-Muslim men. The very bottom is non-Muslim women. That's just a fact.
White girls like this like to pretend it's not so. It's also not even just the Muslim men, even the women said Muslim men rape and beat and keep as slaves will think you a stupid useless, immoral whore, because you are not even a believer.
Even if said stupid ass white girl becomes a Muslim, she will never be considered the same as all the other Muslim women.

All in all, only stupid women do this to themselves.