Read a tweet today about why Gen Z men are not "manning up" and cold approaching women. It's obviously the fear of getting your life ruined, not the fear of rejection.
This is established fact for virtually anyone who's ever thought about the subject (besides NPCs).
But my thought is even if you somehow took away the risk of ruining your life, there are a lot of problems with expecting men to find relationships by walking into the buzzsaw of cold approaches over and over. First of all, it kind of hurts to get turned down based on your physical appearance, and the appearance of 80% of men is inadequate on its own. You can make up for that with banter and flirting. But is it realistic to expect every man, or even most men, to develop the level of game needed to pick up girls off the street?
Second, most attractive women you see on the street already have a boyfriend. Not a meme boyfriend, an actual dude. Now it is true that if you're Timothee Chalamet you can probably turn half of those women into cheating hoes, but why would you want to given that you're going for a serious relationship? In the end it's just very awkward for both parties to go through the script again and again. "Sorry, I have a boyfriend." [forced smile] "Oh, my bad sorry"
In the past women were somewhat more likely to take cold approaches as a compliment. Disclaimer: somewhat more likely. Today the infinite choice of online dating has more than filled women's thirst to be admired, so getting approached in public mostly makes them annoyed for the same reason that most people prefer to be emailed rather than called.
There is a way for guys who aren't male models to be attractive to women: get to know them in a mutual community so their appreciation of your positive features overcomes the "ick" and "he's not a kpop boy band member" factors that they initially notice. People can also figure out who's in a relationship and who's looking without embarrassing themselves. This form of courtship, coincidentally, has been attacked by each successive sexual revolution.
I'm generalizing in several places, but I doubt that most relationships are going to happen through cold approach in a healthy society, whether that's in person or on a Jewish dating app.
I dont want to be bothered while shopping for groceries either, but make it make sense. Approaching sober women in public in broad daylight? BAD! Approaching inebriated women in bars, clubs or frat parties? Good! (well if you accept the risk of coyote ugly turning into a rape accusation)
Rejections certainly add up, but its no longer just a simple 'no.' A lot of messaging today tells young men that they are immoral or completely worthless if women arent having sex with them. Dating is a humiliation/findom ritual where men are expected to pay for a woman's time, knowing she is likely getting her sexual "needs" met on the side by a guy who doesnt have to pay anything.
Women are just so gassed up that they really see average men as too far beneath them to bother. They have their bullshit jobs, an education system built for them, endless attention on social media, and all the gadgets and dragons in their nightstands that never tire. Then theres the fat acceptance and slut walks to bludgeon young men into accepting any repulsive female behavior or be shunned as an incel. The scales are being tipped so harshly in women's favor that at a certain point its not surprising that many young men have so little self-worth and are so exasperated that being 80th in line is appealing.