why we cannot win any "political" battle against them.

Of course you can.

What you're doing is what they want, you've internally shifted the goalposts, and are having the conversation in their preferred terms.

This is part of why they use existential terms for everything because it forces you to process it in the same language, and then they've won. They actually don't care if you accept troons or blacks or muslims or jews or not. They just really want to make sure that you can never find reasonable compromise.