She's trying to get you to reveal inner weakness

Nah, there's just a difference between stated preferences and revealed preferences. While they may think they want you to show yourself vulnerable, they are often disgusted by it in practice.

Not everything is a conspiracy...

Seeing a man cry or be depressed and hopeless, no matter how justified or understandable in real terms, will always be seen as weakness by a woman.

And by every other man.

It's no different than if a guy acts like he's totally cool with sluts and whores and never judges a girl's body count, only to be disgusted when she falls for it and reveals she's fucked 178 guys.

Yeah, exactly right. People often don't know what they really like.