I always defined it as a guy who can't get laid without explicitly paying for it via prostitution. Betabux doesn't count since he did "the normal way". You wouldn't qualify under that definition. The attractiveness of the woman is irrelevant as long as he's pulling in an actual woman (ie not a homosexual tranny). Of course these days the term is used to slur anyone who questions the feminist narrative, and everyone who posts here falls under that umbrella.