Where I think it's weak though is on the whole "men provide", aspect. If women work just as hard as men and earn just as much (as many do), then what do men provide for women? Not much at all. It's clear that women don't provide what men want. A 35yo PhD female with a 8-6pm job with high stress offers men absolutely nothing that men want. On the other hand she likely earns more than most men so most men can't provide her what she supposedly wants. And if we pretend men/women are equal such that their wants/needs can flip so a woman just wants comfort and a man wants her to provide; it still doesn't work because men make enough for themselves and would see the effort woman would want of them to provide "comfort" is too much since they already earn enough to provide resources which should be enough.
I don't think it will happen voluntarily. I think unless we force people to do what is in their interest, they won't do it. That's because this artificial situation you think is caused by technology is artificial indeed but is caused by people with power that want to enhance their situation by forcing this situation on the rest of us without care for our happiness. To combat this we must have the power to force a different situation on everyone.
The FAGTOW pill unfairly demonizes the transactional nature of all relationships, or likes to pretend that they themselves are not transactional when they are.
I can't think of a single transaction where one party is rewarded for pulling out of the deal after getting what they wanted.
If I don't pay my Xbox Game Pass, they cancel it - I don't get to keep claiming it for free because I'm used to having it. The relationship system is fundamentally flawed and if you put it in the context of a dealing between someone and a major corporation, it's obvious.
You read these stories about how women are evil and are purely transactional, but then you read that they left their wives after they gained weight, stopped having sex with them, etc.
The difference being, they just left - they didn't come back for half the wife's earthly possessions plus 50% of her wages over the next few years.
Cool, I like your take.
Where I think it's weak though is on the whole "men provide", aspect. If women work just as hard as men and earn just as much (as many do), then what do men provide for women? Not much at all. It's clear that women don't provide what men want. A 35yo PhD female with a 8-6pm job with high stress offers men absolutely nothing that men want. On the other hand she likely earns more than most men so most men can't provide her what she supposedly wants. And if we pretend men/women are equal such that their wants/needs can flip so a woman just wants comfort and a man wants her to provide; it still doesn't work because men make enough for themselves and would see the effort woman would want of them to provide "comfort" is too much since they already earn enough to provide resources which should be enough.
How do we fix this as a society?
I don't think it will happen voluntarily. I think unless we force people to do what is in their interest, they won't do it. That's because this artificial situation you think is caused by technology is artificial indeed but is caused by people with power that want to enhance their situation by forcing this situation on the rest of us without care for our happiness. To combat this we must have the power to force a different situation on everyone.
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I can't think of a single transaction where one party is rewarded for pulling out of the deal after getting what they wanted.
If I don't pay my Xbox Game Pass, they cancel it - I don't get to keep claiming it for free because I'm used to having it. The relationship system is fundamentally flawed and if you put it in the context of a dealing between someone and a major corporation, it's obvious.
The difference being, they just left - they didn't come back for half the wife's earthly possessions plus 50% of her wages over the next few years.