It's a weird thing that I can't quite explain, but '81 was an unlucky year. I know so many born on that year who had to deal with academic, financial, and societal collapses right when it hurt the most.

You got a great job out of highschool, and it pays great? Sorry that was part of the .com bubble.

Rebuilt and started a new career? The market drop in '08 hit you hard.

So many industries dying at the worst moment, and people saying you caused it somehow. So, do you even include that job on your resume?

All the time others born 3-4 years different are arriving at jobs and things with an easier time. Everyone around you is saying you must have done something, and need to follow the rules even more. Get another career, get more debt from education. That industry failed? Get another education, and more debt and work even harder at this new dying industry.

The only fun and happy time was high school when everything worked and didn't come with all the collapse. The only way out would be to jump on something before it's big, or stop following societal norms.

It's weird, everyone I know born around that year has had these same difficulties and problems. I also know few of them because they die more often.

She's just another example of the weirdness of being born in that year.