Sure, I have (had) many weird fetishes. Starved most of them till they disappeard for the most part. Of curse I am by no means a saint. But I came to the realisation that even indulging in the smaller, seemingly innocent fetishes is not exactly natural or healthy. Everything realted to sexuality has a tendency to silently seep into other areas of life and even influence political views. Constantly horny people do have issues with an addiction just like gluttons or rageaholics. But unlike the latter cases it is not as obvious from the outside if you don't know what to look for.

the important thing is knowing when and where to reign that shit in

Which gets harder and harder since for example in the case of trannys, the echo chamber that encourages this behavior has already gained a foothold in education and media.

My experience is similiar to what you describe. But luckily I got out earlier. But to minimize the danger that I'm just projecting my hangups onto your story, are you comfortable to answer the following questions?

How prelevant was autogynophilia in the fantasies you created after your breakup? When did you come into contact with pornography and what relevance did it have in your life?

Also this is your thread and I'm answering with long winded posts. If you do not find my angle very interesting to talk about, and are just answering out of politeness, just say so. I don't mind.