Full-time orbiter status. Never underestimate the lengths such men will go to to be guaranteed even a whiff of pussy

More or less this.

When F>M it's generally a bunch of very low beta males who not only can't get any from normal relationships but likely aren't going to be getting much in a poly relationship either because the F gets to pick and mix what M does what.

Want a fuckbuddy? M1 can do that. Want a cuddle-buddy? M2 is desperate enough for human touch he will forego sex. Want some new shoes? M3 will buy m'lady her newest wants because it's the only way anyone ever pays M3 attention.

However when it's F<M then it's usually an actual stereotypical Chad who has enough looks/power/money that women are throwing themselves at him for the chance he settles for one of them. Because that's what F<M poly relationships always are, women who claim to be ok with being open but really are just wanting to be "the one" that a guy eventually ends up exclusive with. And he if an M in that situation does start gravitating towards one particular F then you can bet your best pick up lines she will then push hard for either "exclusivity" or more freedom for her than she "permits" the guy to have, which just ends up turning into the F>M situation all over again.

I've known people that "tried to be poly". It never worked. Ever.

Couples who decided to be "open" inevitably ended up spiraling into break ups because unsurprisingly to those with functioning brains when you start compartmentalising your relationship needs between multiple people the ones who aren't fulfilling certain roles end up feeling left out.

And going back again to the F>M and F<M things, if it's the F in a couple who wants to be open it's because she already had someone picked out, even if it's only ever intended as a one off fling which "suddenly" turns back to monogamous after once she's had her fun. If it's the M who wants to be open then he too likely has someone in mind it's because that someone has already approached him first, and may well be intending to break up the existing couple to take the guy for herself.

Edit: I think I had several different thoughts on how to phrase some of them and rather than pick an option I combined things.

Full-time orbiter status. Never underestimate the lengths such men will go to to be guaranteed even a whiff of pussy

More or less this.

When F>M it's generally a bunch of very low beta males who not only can't get any from normal relationships but likely aren't going to be getting much in a poly relationship either because the F gets to pick and mix what M does what.

Want a fuckbuddy? M1 can do that. Want a cuddle-buddy? M2 is desperate enough for human touch he will forego sex. Want some new shoes? M3 will buy m'lady her newest wants because it's the only way anyone ever pays M3 attention.

However when it's F<M then it's usually an actual stereotypical Chad who has enough looks/power/money that women are throwing themselves at him for the chance he settles for one of them. Because that's what F<M poly relationships always are, women who claim to be ok with being open but really are just wanting to be "the one" that a guy eventually ends up exclusive with. And he if an M in that situation does start gravitating towards one particular F then you can bet your best pick up lines she will then push hard for either "exclusivity" or more freedom for her than she "permits" the guy to have, which just ends up turning into the F>M situation all over again.

I've known people that "tried to be poly". It never worked. Ever.

Couples who decided to be "open" inevitably ended up spiraling into break ups because unsurprisingly to those with functioning brains when you start compartmentalising your relationship needs between multiple people the ones who aren't fulfilling certain roles end up feeling left out.

And going back again to the F>M and F<M things, if it's the F in a couple who wants to be open it's because she already had someone picked out, even if it's only ever intended as a one off fling which "suddenly" turns back to monogamous after once she's had her fun. If it's the M who wants to be open then he too likely has someone in mind it's because that someone has already approached him first, and may well be intending to break up the existing couple to take the guy for herself.