I’m in the Bay Area. There are a bunch of ups and downs to that, but one upside is that there are a lot of people from all over, both from other states and other countries, so numbers-wise you can meet a lot of people. Most of the more based people here aren’t from here, though some hold overs from the 90s and before can be pretty based. I’m okay looking but that’s mostly from working at it, and I’m not a 10 or anything. I am hyper muscular though, so if someone wants someone that’s buffer or super hero looking, I play well to that, and I don’t have much competition there because most people here are tiny and frail, so I’m basically Mr. Olympia by comparison despite being far from that. Went through some health stuff that made that more complicated but I still pulled another 21 year old despite feeling like shit and to me looking like crap. Lived together a couple years or more. We’d have been married if I hadn’t encouraged her to continue on with her Master’s during the pandemic, which is where she got flipped leftisty. I’d wished I’d married plenty of the others but things came up and I was cold feety about it despite them being head over heels and wonderful people. You’re dumber when you’re younger, which I’m sure you can relate to. I’d probably tell my younger self to just marry my HS GF and start early.

If there’s something to me it’s probably more the location. My hair’s also thinning but cut well it doesn’t look that bad and although I was paranoid about it I’ve never had anybody say anything about it or notice anything despite me noticing. I’ll probably shave it at some point, and all my ex’s were always okay with that. A lot of them had only dated bald guys, though I’m not bald. Definitely take care of your hair situation though. Shaved looks better than balding, and I know a lot of guys that get SMP, which lets you look like you have a 5 O’Clock shadow when it’s shaved and you can even have a buzzcut with it and you still look like you’re just rocking a nicer shaved head with a full head of hair under there. I’d probably just go Mr. Clean though myself since I’m blonde. I’m on TRT+ now but I wasn’t when I was doing any of this or them so I didn’t need to that help, though it does make life a lot easier now that I’m older.

All my ex’s wanted kids+marriage. What they all had in common was being either from another country or state having come here for school, or first generation from an immigrant. It’s really hard to live here and most, not all, of them were usually with a bunch of roommates or being a nanny for a family or something in a small portion of a room they paid thousands for, so they come to my place by default. I don’t even have a house, so they’re not coming to my mansion or anything. I have friends whose girls were still living with their parents since it’s hard to move out here due to housing prices and rent. It’s very have and have not here, and hard, so if you at least aren’t a have not, there’s a lot to offer someone, if only to avoid having to make it on their own.

Another thing some, but not all, of them had in common is that they usually had something about them that would make them undatable to a lot of people where they’re from or around here which aren’t really bad things to me. One was 6’ tall like me so out here we’re basically 8’, one was from a country where having a tan and a nice ass meant you were a 2, one had giant tits and was from somewhere where they didn’t like big tits for whatever reason, etc. Some, but not all, were a little bit fixer-upper too, but nothing really that bad. Most people that get with me lose a little weight if they had it to begin with because I’m fit and active so I’m okay getting with someone that could stand to lose 15-30 or maybe more since anyone I date kind of becomes the super version of themselves anyway. All the girls I date are way more than 5 years younger than me, which is kind of the norm in other countries. Not that I wouldn’t date an older girl or don’t find them attractive, they’re just not open to dating in a reasonable manner.

I actually ‘date’ them too, which I’m told is less common now. We go out and do things and eat stuff, we don’t just Netflix and chill, although at times you will. Most people here just meet up and fuck, so I’m Captain Romance for taking them somewhere. I’m also very smart and funny, but you don’t really need to be all that smart and funny, just funny enough and smart enough. If a girl likes you and you’re at least kind of funny then you’re funny enough.

I’m not the only one doing what I do out here. One friend just lives in a studio he rents and does the same thing. He’s kind of short and I’d say just past being ugly and dresses poorly and he’s pretty weird but he’s athletic and his GF’s a strong 9. I have no idea why she likes him but it’s normal. He acknowledges he doesn’t know either. Just how it is here. He’s not white but he’s a legit white supremacist.

I’m in the Bay Area. There are a bunch of ups and downs to that, but one upside is that there are a lot of people from all over, both from other states and other countries, so numbers-wise you can meet a lot of people. Most of the more based people here aren’t from here, though some hold overs from the 90s and before can be pretty based. I’m okay looking but that’s mostly from working at it, and I’m not a 10 or anything. I am hyper muscular though, so if someone wants someone that’s buffer or super hero looking, I play well to that, and I don’t have much competition there because most people here are tiny and frail, so I’m basically Mr. Olympia by comparison despite being far from that. Went through some health stuff that made that more complicated but I still pulled another 21 year old despite feeling like shit and to me looking like crap. Lived together a couple years or more. We’d have been married if I hadn’t encouraged her to continue on with her Master’s during the pandemic, which is where she got flipped leftisty. I’d wished I’d married plenty of the others but things came up and I was cold feety about it despite them being head over heels and wonderful people. You’re dumber when you’re younger, which I’m sure you can relate to. I’d probably tell my younger self to just marry my HS GF and start early.

If there’s something to me it’s probably more the location. My hair’s also thinning but cut well it doesn’t look that bad and although I was paranoid about it I’ve never had anybody say anything about it or notice anything despite me noticing. I’ll probably shave it at some point, and all my ex’s were always okay with that. A lot of them had only dated bald guys, though I’m not bald. Definitely take care of your hair situation though. Shaved looks better than balding, and I know a lot of guys that get SMP, which lets you look like you have a 5 O’Clock shadow when it’s shaved and you can even have a buzzcut with it and you still look like you’re just rocking a nicer shaved head with a full head of hair under there. I’d probably just go Mr. Clean though myself since I’m blonde. I’m on TRT+ now but I wasn’t when I was doing any of this or them so I didn’t need to that help, though it does make life a lot easier now that I’m older.

All my ex’s wanted kids+marriage. What they all had in common was being either from another country or state having come here for school, or first generation from an immigrant. It’s really hard to live here and most, not all, of them were usually with a bunch of roommates or being a nanny for a family or something in a small portion of a room they paid thousands for, so they come to my place by default. I don’t even have a house, so they’re not coming to my mansion or anything. I have friends whose girls were still living with their parents since it’s hard to move out here due to housing prices and rent. It’s very have and have not here, and hard, so if you at least aren’t a have not, there’s a lot to offer someone, if only to avoid having to make it on their own.

Another thing some, but not all, of them had in common is that they usually had something about them that would make them undatable to a lot of people where they’re from or around here which aren’t really bad things to me. One was 6’ tall like me so out here we’re basically 8’, one was from a country where having a tan and a nice ass meant you were a 2, one had giant tits and was from somewhere where they didn’t like big tits for whatever reason, etc. Some, but not all, were a little bit fixer-upper too, but nothing really that bad. Most people that get with me lose a little weight if they had it to begin with because I’m fit and active so I’m okay getting with someone that could stand to lose 15-30 or maybe more since anyone I date kind of becomes the super version of themselves anyway. All the girls I date are way more than 5 years younger than me, which is kind of the norm in other countries. Not that I wouldn’t date an older girl or don’t find them attractive, they’re just not open to dating in a reasonable manner.

I actually ‘date’ them too, which I’m told is less common now. We go out and do things and eat stuff, we don’t just Netflix and chill, although at times you will. Most people here just meet up and fuck, so I’m Captain Romance for taking them somewhere. I’m also very smart and funny, but you don’t really need to be all that smart and funny, just funny enough and smart enough. If a girl likes you and you’re at least kind of funny then you’re funny enough.

I’m not the only one doing what I do out here. One friend just lives in a studio he rents and does the same thing. He’s kind of short and I’d say just past being ugly and dresses poorly and he’s pretty weird but he’s athletic and his GF’s a strong 9. I have no idea why she likes him but it’s normal. He acknowledges he doesn’t know either. Just how it is here.