Miranda and Carrie had discussed their biological clocks on Sex and the City and revealed their “scary age,” or age at which they feared they would realize it was too late to have a baby. Will & Grace and Modern Family were opening closets and shining a bright light on modern gay life while offering new definitions of family. Even though there were still no visible gay-dad-straight-mom co-parenting role models for us to look to, there were so many more possibilities when it came to parenting, and Heidi and I felt determined to make our own version of a modern family a reality.

And this is why I never liked Modern Family. There were other reasons as to why (the early warning signs of millenial writing), but I couldn't help but feel the show was offputting in a way I couldn't describe until now. The underlying themes of that show were blantantly subversive, yet people ate it up. And I'm not just talking about the gay dads with the asian daughter, the "normal couples" were also like that.

Miranda and Carrie had discussed their biological clocks on Sex and the City and revealed their “scary age,” or age at which they feared they would realize it was too late to have a baby. Will & Grace and Modern Family were opening closets and shining a bright light on modern gay life while offering new definitions of family. Even though there were still no visible gay-dad-straight-mom co-parenting role models for us to look to, there were so many more possibilities when it came to parenting, and Heidi and I felt determined to make our own version of a modern family a reality.

And this is why I never liked Modern Family. Besides the obnoxious sense of humor, the underlying themes of that show were blantantly subversive, yet people ate it up. And I'm not just talking about the gay dads with the asian daughter, the "normal couples" were also like that.