From a historical perspective, I 100% understand why larger families were often a positive or useful thing. I am far from unaware of that. I just have trouble seeing it as being consistently ideal in modern times, particularly for me personally.
For me it has nothing to do with selfishness or hedonism like it might be for some, so much as recognizing my limitations in how thinly I can spread myself, emotionally and mentally, across multiple things on a regular basis.
And I'd rather not muck things up for my kids simply because I and my partner decided to have more kids than we could manage.
From a historical perspective, I 100% understand why larger families were often a positive or useful thing. I am far from unaware of that. I just have trouble seeing it as being consistetnly ideal in modern times, particularly for me personally.
For me it has nothing to do with selfishness or hedonism like it might be for some, so much as recognizing my limitations in how thinly I can spread myself, emotionally and mentally, across multiple things on a regular basis.
And I'd rather not muck things up for my kids simply because I and my partner decided to have more kids than we could manage.
From a historical perspective, I 100% understand why larger families were often a positive or useful thing. I am far from unaware of that. I just have trouble seeing it as being consistetnly ideal in modern times, particularly for me personally.
For me it has nothing to do with selfishness or hedonism like it might be for some, so much as recognizing my limitations in how thinly I can spread myself, emotionally and mentally, across multiple things on a regular basis.
And I'd rather not muck things up kids simply because I and my partner decided to have more kids than we could manage.
From a historical perspective, I 100% understand why larger families were often a positive or useful thing. I am far from unaware of that. I just have trouble seeing it as being a consistent ideal in modern times, particularly for me personally.
For me it has nothing to do with selfishness or hedonism like it might be for some, so much as recognizing my limitations in how thinly I can spread myself, emotionally and mentally, across multiple things on a regular basis.
And I'd rather not muck things up kids simply because I and my partner decided to have more kids than we could manage.