With all this being said, there must be some inherent reason why some people are able to cope with stuff better than others…
Like, I’ve tried desperately hard to improve my “coping mechanisms”, over the years, and I think, maybe, I’m very slowly getting better (one step forward, two steps back). But some people will experience much worse things in their life, and they will be able to cope.
People who survive terrible things, like war, natural disasters, extreme poverty, whatever.
Why it is that some (not all) of them could cope, and made it through, and some of us just seemingly cant, I do not know. But it must be something to do with the way our brains are wired…
Regardless, I suppose one thing, for me personally, is that, for the first time in a long time, I no longer blame anyone for what has happened. Not family. Not shitty people within the system (often, educational bureaucrats) who made my life so much harder. Not abusive bosses. Not the people who’ve hurt me, or discarded me, or let me down, along the way. And I try not to blame myself, either.
Things happen. People make mistakes. Life is not easy. Unfortunately sometimes those mistakes can haunt you forever, if you don’t overcome them…
Anyway, I truly hope there’s light at the end of this tunnel, for all of us, but it’s a really hard place to reach, chemicals or no.
With all this being said, there must be some inherent reason why some people are able to cope with stuff better than others…
Like, I’ve tried desperately hard to improve my “coping mechanisms”, over the years, and I think, maybe, I’m very slowly getting better (one step forward, two steps back). But some people will experience much worse things in their life, and they will be able to cope.
People who survive terrible things, like war, natural disasters, extreme poverty, whatever.
Why it is that some (not all) of them could cope, and made it through, and some of us just seemingly cant, I do not know. But it must be something to do with the way our brains are wired…
Regardless, I suppose one thing, for me personally, is that, for the first time in a long time, I no longer blame anyone for what has happened. Not family. Not the people who’ve hurt me, or discarded me, or let me down, along the way. And I try not to blame myself, either.
Things happen. People make mistakes. Life is not easy. Unfortunately sometimes those mistakes can haunt you forever, if you don’t overcome them…
Anyway, I truly hope there’s light at the end of this tunnel, for all of us, but it’s a really hard place to reach, chemicals or no.