I think part of is not being sufficiently connected and involved in what's going on at school. Then there's also them naively thinking that their kid spouting off LGBT+ nonsense is "just a phase." They know nothing of how groomers prey upon vulnerable children or how they help these unaware aCtUaLlY tRaNS "eggs" to "hatch" and realize they were actually trans. Complicating matters is, like with any cult, the groomers encourage the children to say nothing to their parents.

Even sadder, these parents may be happy their child is so "progressive" and for standing up for other peoples' "rights." So when their child is suddenly coming out as trans and doing things to hurt themselves it completely blindsides them.

You could boil it down to parents not being connected enough to know what's going on. That essentially is the case, but I'd say it's not wholly their fault because a lot of these parents are normies. They were in school in the 80s-00s and things like LGBT+ nonsense, troon grooming, all of that just were not a thing. You can't watch out for something if you don't even know it's out there.

edit: Also, if you haven't I do recc you check out Abigail Scrier's book, Irreversible Damage. It's been a good while since I read it (and not in its entirety tbf, got busy with other things), but she does give all sorts of stories from parents and from that you see just how they "suddenly" found themselves with a "trans" child. Heart braking stuff.

I think part of is not being sufficiently connected and involved in what's going on at school. Then there's also them naively thinking that their kid spouting off LGBT+ nonsense is "just a phase." They know nothing of how groomers prey upon vulnerable children or how they help these unaware aCtUaLlY tRaNS "eggs" to "hatch" and realize they were actually trans. Complicating matters is, like with any cult, the groomers encourage the children not to say anything to their parents.

Even sadder, these parents may be happy their child is so "progressive" and for standing up for other peoples' "rights." So when their child is suddenly coming out as trans and doing things to hurt themselves it completely blindsides them.

You could boil it down to parents not being connected enough to know what's going on. That essentially is the case, but I'd say it's not wholly their fault because a lot of these parents are normies. They were in school in the 80s-00s and things like LGBT+ nonsense, troon grooming, all of that just were not a thing. You can't watch out for something if you don't even know it's out there.