In short: Where should I go to develop genuine connections with good people?
Why post this in KIA2? Well, I'm lost, maybe this is the wrong place for this discussion. I'm this mix of a Christian who likes games, VR, anime, etc., and I don't feel like I fit in anywhere.
If I go to Japan, even tho I'm fluent, I'll never be a native Japanese citizen, and where are the wise amongst their people? The older generation is so quick to condemn; the younger generation, picking up on western leftism it seems.
If I go to church, most Christians / people in general haven't actually developed the wisdom Christianity could provide them with, and may not have anything to do with JP/games/anime/VR.
If I go to VRChat, even in the relatively better communities I find narcissistic feminist women, furries, leftists, etc. are a dime a dozen. As socialites, there are a rare few who have gained some wisdom, but as with other communities I've seen, few and far between.
If I go take a dance class, I find older, conservative men and women, a younger narcissistic feminist woman (but hey, at least I can connect with those women on games and anime...), a younger Christian woman raised in a broken family, lacked self-esteem and got plastic surgery and breast implants because of it... Seems maybe some other homeschooled girls out there, too...? (Where's the younger men? Playing video games I guess? XD)
If I go to an anime or game convention, well now you have all this mask and vaccine stuff and it just doesn't seem worth it anymore.
So, it seems to me that the wise are few and far between wherever you go, and just about any place people gather and like games/anime/VR is captured by leftism. So where am I supposed to go?
I feel like I need to create my own community, because the community I'm looking for just doesn't exist. I've written a 3D engine from scratch in Vulkan for VR that can do online multiplayer, maybe I'll just try and setup a little community there+Discord+Twitter+Twitch...? I'm not sure I'm cut out to be a community leader, but if I don't do it, I'm not sure who will.
I'm also in a pretty similar boat, I don't have any desire to move to Japan but visiting seems fun, so that avenue was closed to me a long time ago when I made that decision.
In terms of finding friends or people, I've not really had luck other than at work - some people I can get along with on a hobby and personal level, and others I've found good friendships in things I'm less interested in but still view positively, like guns, hunting, sports, their families and values in general.
Outside of that I've got my high school group I'm still very close with, even becoming adults at this point we have all grown in different but similar ways so that's been great to have.
And when looking for new people, every online space I've found has just been horrific for finding real friends. For finding a community or people that resonate with me, maybe KiA is the only place, but other than my random comments I don't really 'know' anyone here other than the common users in passing. I'm happy to have a place where I can find some unpozzed news and some people to commiserate with from time to time as we see the degeneracy take over and increase.
If you find a good place or make a good place to find something like what you are looking for, feel free to share it with us so we can find that kind of refuge too.