I've always thought that starting a family would be inevitable because that's what happened with my parents and their parents etc. But given current events (and honestly events that happened before my mom popped me out), trying to start a normal family free from the leftists' tentacles is near impossible. It seems that the only way to start (and maintain) a nuclear family right now in the US is to:
- Play along with leftist propaganda and play to the whims of your lefty wife else she takes more than the kids.
- Become a tradcuck, convert to christianity, move to the rural part of a red state. And both options still leave you vulnerable to the state courts if she wants to divorce for any reason.
Personally, I still want to entertain the idea of a wife and kids. Maybe it's just human nature that I am in denial and MGTOW is the way to go for generations to come. It also doesn't help that I'm currently stuck in Commiefornia where lockdowns are still a thing and everyone I know drank the Democratic kool-aid. So my irl options are limited. I also don't want to use online dating as pretty sure 99% that I am going to match someone who will be a lefty believer. I'm curious what this sub thinks on this topic as it seems that there is mix of MGTOWs and those who are married and have kids.
Others have posted the good straight advice already. I'll add some subtextual advice.
Do not engage in "the dating scene". Doing so is the same as picking path #1. If you live in a secret righteous township with no poz anywhere, then maybe you'd have some success, but you'd also be shitting in the well by adding a "scene" where there was a more organic process.
This leads into the subtext for path #2: seek out connections through community engagement. Path #2 is advocating for a number of traditional communities. Consider instead, that you can find non-traditional communities. I don't care if you're dredging with degenerate furry scum, if the community is good enough for you (and you've fucked up if you're in one that isn't), then it'll be good enough for finding someone to connect with.
Further subtext of previous point. Being in a community carries some implications of involvement, interest, and engagement. If you're hunting communities for the express purpose of finding a mate, then just stop and go to tinder because you don't deserve path #2. Being engaged in non-mating/non-dating activities can demonstrate/exercise stability and discipline; chasing immediate rewards is foolish when selecting a mate because lifelong commitments are very not immediate rewards.
I've experienced this first-hand and why I only want to join communities that I actually give a shit about. It's pretty obvious to people if you are there for the community or there for snagging a mate lol.
That's actually a great way of saying it.