I think Heinlein said it better.

"Violence is the Supreme Authority, from which, all other Authority is Derived."

Even Team America said it better.

"See, there's three kinds of people: dicks, pussies, and assholes. Pussies think everyone can get along, and dicks just want to fuck all the time without thinking it through. But then you got your assholes, Chuck. And all the assholes want us to shit all over everything! So, pussies may get mad at dicks once in a while, because pussies get fucked by dicks. But dicks also fuck assholes, Chuck. And if they didn't fuck the assholes, you know what you'd get? You'd get your dick and your pussy all covered in shit!"

But real men get this on an instinctual level. There are just certain behaviors that merit a violent response, real men know this. It's just that these day's we've delegated that response to the state, letting everyone else pretend this isn't the case and pretend they're more moral than the real men.

The Paradox of Tolerance, is just a way of handwaving away reality. Real "Tolerance" as they describe it doesn't exist. There are certain behaviors that cannot be accepted. Simple as. People just fight over what behaviors those are.