I am Christian and married myself, though I absolutely understand why many men would avoid that lifestyle these days. Marrying the wrong person is a cheat code to ruining your life and there are a lot more wrong people out there than right people.
Sometimes I watch Sam Hyde's streams where he creates a burner account on bumble or tinder and spends hours swiping. It's brutal out there for single guys. If something happened to my wife I'd probably never try to date again. I have no idea how to prepare my son to navigate all this either.
I try very hard to not have regrets in my life, but one observation I make is that it would have been way easier to marry much earlier in life than most people (including religious "leaders") recommend.
Had I married the girl from high school who I was kinda into and who in retrospect was quite obviously into me, things in my life would have been very different but I probably would have figured out how to make them work. And I wouldn't have to think about how to make dating in my 40s work.
I can empathize with those kinds of regrets, even though I sort of railed on my own parents who did something similar to what you say you wish you'd done yourself in my other comment.
At the same time though I've seen and heard so many examples of how often getting married too early can end up biting people in the ass, since they're still at that stage where they're trying to find their own path in life.
I'm not sure at what exact age your situation was occurring, but I do think there is a certain "sweet spot" kind of age that tends to work out best. At least in a relatively normal non-clown world society. I also think college and the sheer length of time it eats up has become a bit of a conundrum that often causes a lot of people to miss that sweet spot. Especially for those who don't have clear career goals almost from the moment they start going to college. And colleges have done an increasingly piss poor job of making anything go smoothly.
I am Christian and married myself, though I absolutely understand why many men would avoid that lifestyle these days. Marrying the wrong person is a cheat code to ruining your life and there are a lot more wrong people out there than right people.
Yup. Feminism has ruined women, and the few good ones left are naturally taken.
Sometimes I watch Sam Hyde's streams where he creates a burner account on bumble or tinder and spends hours swiping. It's brutal out there for single guys. If something happened to my wife I'd probably never try to date again. I have no idea how to prepare my son to navigate all this either.
I try very hard to not have regrets in my life, but one observation I make is that it would have been way easier to marry much earlier in life than most people (including religious "leaders") recommend.
Had I married the girl from high school who I was kinda into and who in retrospect was quite obviously into me, things in my life would have been very different but I probably would have figured out how to make them work. And I wouldn't have to think about how to make dating in my 40s work.
I can empathize with those kinds of regrets, even though I sort of railed on my own parents who did something similar to what you say you wish you'd done yourself in my other comment.
At the same time though I've seen and heard so many examples of how often getting married too early can end up biting people in the ass, since they're still at that stage where they're trying to find their own path in life.
I'm not sure at what exact age your situation was occurring, but I do think there is a certain "sweet spot" kind of age that tends to work out best. At least in a relatively normal non-clown world society. I also think college and the sheer length of time it eats up has become a bit of a conundrum that often causes a lot of people to miss that sweet spot. Especially for those who don't have clear career goals almost from the moment they start going to college. And colleges have done an increasingly piss poor job of making anything go smoothly.