Why Even Bother With Parody
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The only way you wouldn't be the father you are today without aborting your first child is you absolutely fucked up and got a girl pregnant while dirt poor in or before college, and neither your nor your girlfriend's parents gave a fuck about supporting that infant.
I feel like everyone forgets grandparents exist.
ON TOP OF THAT... I've seen a LOT of young people be complete useless drunken morons until someone gets pregnant (that idiocy is usually what causes the pregnancy), and had that event be their wake up call to actually get their shit together.
All throughout the my youth I was told teen pregnancy was the worst thing ever. I was told it was the end of your fucking life and that if it happened, you were a rock bottom failure for sure.
Then I became aware of all people with parents less than 20 years older than themselves. Then throughout school and college I saw a bunch of classmates get pregnant.
I googled those girls, and their boyfriends. Guess what? They're fine. Half of them are better off than I am, probably because they had their shit nailed down at 20 where as I was fucking around like a brainless retard til 26, because I could.
I think for a lot of people, having a child is what truly transitions them to adulthood, and there's probably a bunch of biological changes that occur within the brains of parents to make them more responsible and forward-planning. There was no doubt a very good reason why our ancestors used to get married young and start having kids early, and it wasn't just that their life expectancy was shorter. I think a lot of us are living this extended, aimless adolescence these days, and I say that as someone who is nearly 30 with no kids yet.
Fathers are absolutely crucial for the stability of a nation.
Yet in clown world, society has managed to incentivize hookup culture, divorce, single motherhood and has greatly disincentivized fatherhood.
Extended aimless adolescence certainly fits many people but it is not an accurate label for everyone who doesn't have children.
I am in my 30s and I don't want to have kids because I think it would be downright cruel to raise kids in current clown world.
Clown world has been getting worse year by year. I cannot imagine what clown world looks like next year.
I agree with pretty much all of what you said, but I still have faith that having kids is the right way to go for most people, since it has worked in the past. If we have enough right thinking people raising right thinking kids, maybe we can detach from the corrupted mainstream and make something new.
I don't blame you for not wanting them, and I think men can do better without kids than women can, most of the time. I just hope you can find something else that will give your life meaning in the long run because God knows it gets terribly lonely in your twilight years when you don't have a family around.
I am also in my 30s, and for a long time I didn't want kids or a family because I wanted to focus on my career. Eventually it became a sort of surrogate for family, where I thought to myself "Instead of a family, what I create as part of my career will be my legacy in the world". A delusion of grandeur that seems to be quite common among scientists and engineers, and I wasn't immune to it.
Enter Woke Capital and my departure from it, and the realization upon that departure that ultimately "building a career" is building something for someone else that you have no control over. And if they choose to exert that control in ways you don't like, you have no recourse.
And I'm still young enough to not think about it too often, but every now and then the thought of "who will take care of me when I'm too old to take care of myself?" creeps into my head, and I don't have a good answer. What I do know is that I don't expect Clown World to take good care of me when that time comes. I hear stories about how the nursing home treats my elderly grandmother and think I would rather die than experience that.
I have no answers and am not suggesting any particular course of action; simply describing my own personal journey.
34 here. Thankfully married and working on the family bit... but I just wanted to say "extended, aimless adolesence" is a perfect description.
Good luck my friend! I'm planning on getting married soon too. I want to be young enough that I can deal with my kids when they're teenagers and not have to put up with that in my 50s.